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Update July 14, 2008: Got a new iPhone 3G or upgraded your device to the iPhone 2.0 software? Here are our picks of the best free iPhone apps available in the App Store.

Note: This article was originally posted on January 3, 2008, and applies to jailbroken iPhones running the 1.1.2 software. Last week we showed you how to install third party apps on your iPhone or iPod touch, and since then a new firmware preview has leaked its way to the 'nets with saucy new features that—once released—may tempt you to abandon your jailbreak for the newly introduced features. Fact is, until the 1.1.3 firmware is successfully hacked by the resourceful iPhone hackers, you can still enjoy all of the features the update is bringing and more with your jailbroken iPhone. Today I'm taking a look at my 20 favorite (that's right, 20) third-party iPhone and iPod touch apps.

NOTE: Apologies for the gallery format on the screenshots, but I wanted to provide full-size screenshots (sometimes more than one) for every app. All of the applications below are available through Installer.app, which can be installed by jailbreaking your iPhone. For more details on each app, click through to the gallery page (again, sorry). Some of the apps will work perfectly on both the iPhone and iPod touch, while others are obviously a bit more iPhone-oriented. I've only tested these apps on the iPhone. Want to learn more about all things iPhone? Check out How to Do Everything with your iPhone,

Jun 1, 2009

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Scientific Web Design: 23 Actionable Lessons from Eye-Tracking Studies

Eye-tracking studies are hot in the web design world, but it can be hard to figure out how to translate the results of these studies into real design implementations. These are a few tips from eye-tracking studies that you can use to improve the design of your webpage.

1. Text attracts attention before graphics. Contrary to what you might think, the first thing users look at on a website isn’t the images. Most casual users will be coming to your site looking for information, not images, so make sure your website is designed so that the most important parts of your text are what is most prominent.
2. Initial eye movement focuses on the upper left corner of the page. It shouldn’t be surprising that users look at webpages in this way, as most computer applications are designed with the top left hand side as the main focus. You can do your website a favor by keeping this format in mind when creating a design. Remember, while you want to have a personal style, you have to keep the habits of your readers in mind if you want your site to be successful.
3. Users initially look at the top left and upper portion of the page before moving down and to the right. Users were found to generally scan webpages in the shape of an ‘F’. Make sure the important elements of your content are located in these key areas to keep readers engaged. Place headlines, subheadlines, bullet points, and highlighted text along these lines so readers will be enticed to read further.
4. Readers ignore banners. Ads may be the bread and butter of your site, but studies have shown that readers largely ignore banner ads, often focusing for only a fraction of a second. If you’re trying to make money from ads, you need to be creative in your ad placement or in the types of ads you have on your site.
5. Fancy formatting and fonts are ignored. Why? Because users assume they are ads and don’t have the information they need. In fact, studies showed that users had difficulty finding information in large colored letters formatted in this way because visual clues told them to ignore it. Keep your site streamlined and not so shiny that important elements will be glossed over.
6. Show numbers as numerals. Readers will find it much easier to find factual information on your site if you use numerals instead of writing out numbers. Remember, you’re writing for readers that are going to be primarily scanning your site, so make it easier for them to find what they need and keep them interested.
7. Type size influences viewing behavior. Want to change how people look at your page? Change the size of your font. Smaller fonts increase focused viewing behavior while larger fonts encourage scanning. Depending on your needs, you may want more of one than the other.
8. Users only look at a sub headline if it interests them. Don’t put in subheadlines just to stick to a particular format–make sure that they are relevant and interesting. You can also help yourself out by making sure they include keywords that will bring search engines to your site.
9. People generally scan lower portions of the page. You can use this to your advantage if you give readers something to latch onto when they’re scanning your page. Highlight certain sections or create bulleted lists so information is easy to find and read on your page.
10. Shorter paragraphs perform better than long ones. Information on your page should be designed for the short attention span of most Internet users. Keep paragraphs and sentences short unless context mandates otherwise, such as descriptions of products on an e-commerce sites.
11. One-column formats perform better in eye-fixation than multi-column formats. Don’t overwhelm visitors to your site with too much information. Simpler really is better in some cases. Multiple columns will more than likely by ignored by users, so eliminate clutter from the get-go.
12. Ads in the top and left portions of a page will receive the most eye fixation. If you’re going to place ads on your site, try integrating them into the top left portion of your page, as those will get the most visual attention. Of course, just because readers see them there doesn’t mean they’ll click on them, so don’t sacrifice design just to gain some extra visibility.
13. Ads placed next to the best content are seen more often. If you want to get your ads seen and hopefully clicked on, incorporate them into your design in a way that places them near the most interesting elements of your content. Users will still be able to find what they need, but you’ll gain an advantage in advertising.
14. Text ads were viewed mostly intently of all types tested. Like we said earlier, the average Internet user generally doesn’t waste much time looking at things that immediately appear to be ads. That’s why text ads perform so much better. They aren’t distracting and blend in with the rest of the content on the page, making them less visually irritating to the reader and ultimately more successful.
15. Bigger images get more attention. If you are going to use images on your page, bigger is better. People are more interested in an image where they can see details and information clearly. Just make sure that any image you are using is particularly relevant to your text, otherwise it will most likely be ignored. Most readers have high-speed connections these days so don’t be afraid to stick a few larger photos on your Web host.
16. Clean, clear faces in images attract more eye fixation. While they might look good with your design, abstract and artsy photos aren’t going to garner much reader attention. If you’re using photos with people in them, make sure they are clear, easy to read shots. It should also be noted that photos with "real" people, not models, perform better.
17. Headings draw the eye. One of the first things readers have been found to look at on a webpage are headlines. Make sure yours are unobstructed by other items on the page and that they are engaging enough to draw the reader into looking further through your site.
18. Users spend a lot of time looking at buttons and menus. Because of this, you’ll want to put in some extra time making sure that yours are well-designed. After all, they not only draw a lot of eye fixation, they are one of the most important elements of your site.
19. Lists hold reader attention longer. One way you can break up the paragraphs in your content and keep users looking through your site is to make frequent use of a list format for your articles. Use numbers or bullet points to highlight important information within your content. It will make your site more scannable and easier for users to find the information that they’re looking for.
20. Large blocks of text are avoided. Studies have shown that that your average Web visitor isn’t going to take the time to study large blocks of text no matter how informative or well-written they might be. Because of this, you need to break up these larger blocks of text into smaller paragraphs. Highlighting specific areas and pulling out bullet points can also help to keep user attention.
21. Formatting can draw attention. To keep users from skipping over the main and most important points in your content use bold, capitalized, italicized, colored, and underlined text. Use these things judiciously however, as too much will make your page hard to read and send readers away.
22. White space is good. While it might be tempting to put something in every corner of your page, it’s actually better to leave some of your site free of any text. Sites with too much going on tend to overwhelm users and they ignored a large part of the content. So keep things simple and allow some visual open space for readers to rest their eyes.
23. Navigation tools work better when placed at the top of the page. Ideally, you don’t want readers to just look at the initial page they came to on your site, you want them to stick around and look at other interesting things as well. You can help send them in the right direction by making your navigation easy to find and use by placing it at the top of the page.

Learn JavaScript before tasting the library kool-aid

Learn JavaScript before tasting the library kool-aid

When I mentioned “Overuse of JavaScript frameworks/libraries” as one of the Six things that suck about the Web in 2006, I quickly learned that some people don’t quite agree. That’s fine, everybody has the right to their opinion. But I want to explain my thoughts and feelings about JavaScript libraries a bit more. If JavaScript libraries are religion to you, please read this article in full before you bring out your flamethrower.

These days, just about every blog or forum related to Web design or development contains a lot of talk about JavaScript libraries (frameworks, toolkits, whatever). No surprise there, considering how popular they are. However, some of those blog posts and discussions are making me a bit concerned. Not about JavaScript libraries being popular–they do have their place and can be used well–but about how they are being marketed and the way many designers and developers tend to use them.

Unfortunately, some JavaScript libraries seem created specifically to appeal to people who are easily dazzled by animations and other visual bling-bling, or people who want to “get the job done” without actually knowing how to get the job done. This can much too easily lead to bloated, inaccessible, and obtrusive scripting that is dependent on several different libraries and their add-ons, and makes teamwork more difficult and complex than it needs to be.

The JavaScript library hype is making me feel uneasy because I was there in the late 1990’s/early 2000’s when DHTML was a huge buzzword. DHTML libraries made it too easy to create annoying animations, inaccessible dropdown menus, unusable scrollbars, and other pointless and obtrusive novelties. And it looks like we are heading that way again.

Check out the demos that accompany some of the popular libraries. Do they work in all modern browsers? Are they accessible? Are they created with progressive enhancement in mind? Do they provide a reasonable alternative when JavaScript is off? The answer is no in too many cases for me to believe that library developers in general care about accessibility and progressive enhancement. Of course there are exceptions, but a lot of demos and tutorials are really not doing what they should to set good examples. To see what I mean, all you need to do is take a look at the obtrusive and inaccessible JavaScript Adobe Spry promotes.

Unfortunately it seems that when libraries or frameworks enter the room, best practices regarding usability, accessibility, and unobtrusive scripting are very easily thrown out of the window. In most cases this is not the fault of the libraries themselves, but of badly written demos (which will be copied and used as-is, no matter what you say), lack of documentation, and developers who use the libraries and their accompanying demos recklessly, without considering the consequences.

Before giving in to the JavaScript library hype, please invest some of your precious time in learning JavaScript. I really think you will feel better about yourself if you can say “I know how to program with JavaScript and can make an informed choice about which library, if any, to use” instead of just “I know enough JavaScript to use Library X to create cool animations”.

Just to be perfectly clear: I am not against JavaScript libraries. They can relieve you of repetitive programming tasks and help you with browser inconsistencies, letting you spend your time on better things. What I am against is using libraries the wrong way, like for adding gratuitous visual effects and making GUIs inaccessible, confusing, and difficult to use.

I personally don’t quite see the need to use third party JavaScript libraries, at least not any of the big ones I have taken a look at. They are too complex and do too many things for my taste. What I would prefer to use is a really minimal library that contains the essential helper functions that you need for almost every website project. Nothing more, nothing less. If it’s easily extensible, great. But it needs to be small. I don’t want to make my clients’ visitors download a 50 KB library if I’m only using 5 KB of it. Robert Nyman’s recently released DOMAss - The DOM assistant seems to fit that description. It’s only been available for a few days, so I haven’t had the time to actually use it yet, but it does look very promising.

You may disagree with some or all of what I’m saying here, or agree but feel that the benefits you get from using an oversized library make up for the disadvantages. In the end, it’s obviously your decision.

But please, whether you swear by libraries or not, make sure that all your JavaScript is accessible and unobtrusive, and remember that You cannot rely on JavaScript being available. Period.
Related reading

JavaScript libraries and their use have been discussed a lot by others, and here are a few noteworthy articles on the subject:

* Christian Heilmann: The Importance of Maintainable JavaScript
* Christian Heilmann: Dear JavaScript Library Developers…
* James Bennet: Django and AJAX
* Jeremy Keith: Learning JavaScript
* Jeremy Keith: Your own personal library
* Justin Palmer: Ajax: Killing Usability One Request at a Time
* Peter-Paul Koch: Again JavaScript libraries
* Stuart Langridge: The fog of libraries

Possibly related posts

* base2.DOM is my kind of JavaScript library
* Adobe Spry and obtrusive, inaccessible JavaScript
* DOM Assistant 2.0 released
* DOMAssistant 2.6 released

Posted on January 29, 2007 in Accessibility, JavaScript

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January 29, 2007 by Daniel Gr

2006 was basically 1 step forward and 2 steps back for accessibility. Because, while semantic HTML grew, poor and intrusive Javascript virtually exploded.

I hope we can take a step forward this year only and we’ll be back at 2005 levels, at least, but I doubt the web will ever be as usable as when we only had HTML 3.2, sorrily.
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January 29, 2007 by Stanislav Müller

What happens if somethink doesn’t work as good as you expected?
»Did you take another JS Framework?«

No

You are trying to understand what happens and why it happens isn’t so?

21 Tactics to Increase Blog Traffic

A considerable portion of my consulting time has recently revolved around the optimization of corporate blogs (or the addition of blogs to revamped sites). As usual, I find a pattern emerging in the strategies that need attention and the pitfalls that must be avoided. So, rather than charging $400 an hour to give advice on the subject, I thought it would be valuable to share many of the most common pieces of advice here on the blog (business part of Rand fights with open source Rand, but loses, as usual).

1. Choose the Right Blog Software (or Custom Build)
The right blog CMS makes a big difference. If you want to set yourself apart, I recommend creating a custom blog solution - one that can be completely customized to your users. In most cases, WordPress, Blogger, MovableType or Typepad will suffice, but building from scratch allows you to be very creative with functionality and formatting. The best CMS is something that's easy for the writer(s) to use and brings together the features that allow the blog to flourish. Think about how you want comments, archiving, sub-pages, categorization, multiple feeds and user accounts to operate in order to narrow down your choices. OpenSourceCMS is a very good tool to help you select a software if you go that route.
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2. Host Your Blog Directly on Your Domain
Hosting your blog on a different domain from your primary site is one of the worst mistakes you can make. A blog on your domain can attract links, attention, publicity, trust and search rankings - by keeping the blog on a separate domain, you shoot yourself in the foot. From worst to best, your options are - Hosted (on a solution like Blogspot or Wordpress), on a unique domain (at least you can 301 it in the future), on a subdomain (these can be treated as unique from the primary domain by the engines) and as a sub-section of the primary domain (in a subfolder or page - this is the best solution).
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3. Write Title Tags with Two Audiences in Mind
First and foremost, you're writing a title tag for the people who will visit your site or have a subscription to your feed. Title tags that are short, snappy, on-topic and catchy are imperative. You also want to think about search engines when you title your posts, since the engines can help to drive traffic to your blog. A great way to do this is to write the post and the title first, then run a few searches at Overture, WordTracker & KeywordDiscovery to see if there is a phrasing or ordering that can better help you to target "searched for" terms.
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4. Participate at Related Forums & Blogs
Whatever industry or niche you're in, there are bloggers, forums and an online community that's already active. Depending on the specificity of your focus, you may need to think one or two levels broader than your own content to find a large community, but with the size of the participatory web today, even the highly specialized content areas receive attention. A great way to find out who these people are is to use Technorati to conduct searches, then sort by number of links (authority). Del.icio.us tags are also very useful in this process, as are straight searches at the engines (Ask.com's blog search in particular is of very good quality).
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5. Tag Your Content
Technorati is the first place that you should be tagging posts. I actually recommend having the tags right on your page, pointing to the Technorati searches that you're targeting. There are other good places to ping - del.icio.us and Flickr being the two most obvious (the only other one is Blogmarks, which is much smaller). Tagging content can also be valuable to help give you a "bump" towards getting traffic from big sites like Reddit, Digg & StumbleUpon (which requires that you download the toolbar, but trust me - it's worth it). You DO NOT want to submit every post to these sites, but that one out of twenty (see tactic #18) is worth your while.
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6. Launch Without Comments (and Add Them Later)
There's something sad about a blog with 0 comments on every post. It feels dead, empty and unpopular. Luckily, there's an easy solution - don't offer the ability to post comments on the blog and no one will know that you only get 20 uniques a day. Once you're upwards of 100 RSS subscribers and/or 750 unique visitors per day, you can open up the comments and see light activity. Comments are often how tech-savvy new visitors judge the popularity of a site (and thus, its worth), so play to your strengths and keep your obscurity private.
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7. Don't Jump on the Bandwagon
Some memes are worthy of being talked about by every blogger in the space, but most aren't. Just because there's huge news in your industry or niche DOES NOT mean you need to be covering it, or even mentioning it (though it can be valuable to link to it as an aside, just to integrate a shared experience into your unique content). Many of the best blogs online DO talk about the big trends - this is because they're already popular, established and are counted on to be a source of news for the community. If you're launching a new blog, you need to show people in your space that you can offer something unique, different and valuable - not just the same story from your point of view. This is less important in spaces where there are very few bloggers and little online coverage and much more in spaces that are overwhelmed with blogs (like search, or anything else tech-related).
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8. Link Intelligently
When you link out in your blog posts, use convention where applicable and creativity when warranted, but be aware of how the links you serve are part of the content you provide. Not every issue you discuss or site you mention needs a link, but there's a fine line between overlinking and underlinking. The best advice I can give is to think of the post from the standpoint of a relatively uninformed reader. If you mention Wikipedia, everyone is familiar and no link is required. If you mention a specific page at Wikipedia, a link is necessary and important. Also, be aware that quoting other bloggers or online sources (or even discussing their ideas) without linking to them is considered bad etiquette and can earn you scorn that could cost you links from those sources in the future. It's almost always better to be over-generous with links than under-generous. And link condoms? Only use them when you're linking to something you find truly distasteful or have serious apprehension about.
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9. Invite Guest Bloggers
Asking a well known personality in your niche to contribute a short blog on their subject of expertise is a great way to grow the value and reach of your blog. You not only flatter the person by acknowledging their celebrity, you nearly guarantee yourself a link or at least an association with a brand that can earn you readers. Just be sure that you really are getting a quality post from someone that's as close to universally popular and admired as possible (unless you want to start playing the drama linkbait game, which I personally abhor). If you're already somewhat popular, it can often be valuable to look outside your space and bring in guest authors who have a very unique angle or subject matter to help spice up your focus. One note about guest bloggers - make sure they agree to have their work edited by you before it's posted. A disagreement on this subject after the fact can have negative ramifications.
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10. Eschew Advertising (Until You're Popular)
I hate AdSense on blogs. Usually, I ignore it, but I also cast a sharp eye towards the quality of the posts and professionalism of the content when I see AdSense. That's not to say that contextual advertising can't work well in some blogs, but it needs to be well integrated into the design and layout to help defer criticism. Don't get me wrong - it's unfair to judge a blog by its cover (or, in this case, its ads), but spend a lot of time surfing blogs and you'll have the same impression - low quality blogs run AdSense and many high quality ones don't. I always recommend that whether personal or professional, you wait until your blog has achieved a level of success before you start advertising. Ads, whether they're sponsorships, banners, contextual or other, tend to have a direct, negative impact on the number of readers who subscribe, add to favorites and link - you definitely don't want that limitation while you're still trying to get established.
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11. Go Beyond Text in Your Posts
Blogs that contain nothing but line after line of text are more difficult to read and less consistently interesting than those that offer images, interactive elements, the occasional multimedia content and some clever charts & graphs. Even if you're having a tough time with non-text content, think about how you can format the text using blockquotes, indentation, bullet points, etc. to create a more visually appealing and digestible block of content.
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12. Cover Topics that Need Attention
In every niche, there are certain topics and questions that are frequently asked or pondered, but rarely have definitive answers. While this recommendation applies to nearly every content-based site, it's particularly easy to leverage with a blog. If everyone in the online Nascar forums is wondering about the components and cost of an average Nascar vehicle - give it to them. If the online stock trading industry is rife with questions about the best performing stocks after a terrorist threat, your path is clear. Spend the time and effort to research, document and deliver and you're virtually guaranteed link-worthy content that will attract new visitors and subscribers.
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13. Pay Attention to Your Analytics
Visitor tracking software can tell you which posts your audience likes best, which ones don't get viewed and how the search engines are delivering traffic. Use these clues to react and improve your strategies. Feedburner is great for RSS and I'm a personal fan of Indextools. Consider adding action tracking to your blog, so you can see what sources of traffic are bringing the best quality visitors (in terms of time spent on the site, # of page views, etc). I particularly like having the "register" link tagged for analytics so I can see what percentage of visitors from each source is interested enough to want to leave a comment or create an account.
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14. Use a Human Voice
Charisma is a valuable quality, both online and off. Through a blog, it's most often judged by the voice you present to your users. People like empathy, compassion, authority and honesty. Keep these in the forefront of your mind when writing and you'll be in a good position to succeed. It's also critical that you maintain a level of humility in your blogging and stick to your roots. When users start to feel that a blog is taking itself too seriously or losing the characteristics that made it unique, they start to seek new places for content. We've certainly made mistakes (even recently) that have cost us some fans - be cautious to control not only what you say, but how you say it. Lastly - if there's a hot button issue that has you posting emotionally, temper it by letting the post sit in draft mode for an hour or two, re-reading it and considering any revisions. With the advent of feeds, once you publish, there's no going back.
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15. Archive Effectively
The best archives are carefully organized into subjects and date ranges. For search traffic (particularly long tail terms), it can be best to offer the full content of every post in a category on the archive pages, but from a usability standpoint, just linking to each post is far better (possibly with a very short snippet). Balance these two issues and make the decision based on your goals. A last note on archiving - pagination in blogging can be harmful to search traffic, rather than beneficial (as you provide constantly changing, duplicate content pages). Pagination is great for users who scroll to the bottom and want to see more, though, so consider putting a "noindex" in the meta tag or in the robots.txt file to keep spiders where they belong - in the well-organized archive system.
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16. Implement Smart URLs
The best URL structure for blogs is, in my opinion, as short as possible while still containing enough information to make an educated guess about the content you'll find on the page. I don't like the 10 hyphen, lengthy blog titles that are the byproduct of many CMS plugins, but they are certainly better than any dynamic parameters in the URL. Yes - I know I'm not walking the talk here, and hopefully it's something we can fix in the near future. To those who say that one dynamic parameter in the URL doesn't hurt, I'd take issue - just re-writing a ?ID=450 to /450 has improved search traffic considerably on several blogs we've worked with.
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17. Reveal as Much as Possible
The blogosphere is in love with the idea of an open source world on the web. Sharing vast stores of what might ordinarily be considered private information is the rule, rather than the exception. If you can offer content that's usually private - trade secrets, pricing, contract issues, and even the occasional harmless rumor, your blog can benefit. Make a decision about what's off-limits and how far you can go and then push right up to that limit in order to see the best possible effects. Your community will reward you with links and traffic.
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18. Only One Post in Twenty Can Be Linkbait
Not every post is worthy of making it to the top of Digg, Del.icio.us/popular or even a mention at some other blogs in your space. Trying to over-market every post you write will result in pushback and ultimately lead to negative opinions about your efforts. The less popular your blog is, the harder it will be to build excitement around a post, but the process of linkbait has always been trial and error - build, test, refine and re-build. Keep creating great ideas and bolstering them with lots of solid, everyday content and you'll eventually be big enough to where one out of every 20-40 posts really does become linkbait.
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19. Make Effective Use of High Traffic Days
If you do have linkbait, whether by design or by accident, make sure to capitalize. When you hit the front page of Digg, Reddit, Boing Boing, or, on a smaller scale, attract a couple hundred visitors from a bigger blog or site in your space, you need to put your best foot forward. Make sure to follow up on a high traffic time period with 2-3 high quality posts that show off your skills as a writer, your depth of understanding and let visitors know that this is content they should be sticking around to see more of. Nothing kills the potential linkbait "bump" faster than a blog whose content doesn't update for 48 hours after they've received a huge influx of visitors.
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20. Create Expectations and Fulfill Them
When you're writing for your audience, your content focus, post timing and areas of interest will all become associated with your personal style. If you vary widely from that style, you risk alienating folks who've come to know you and rely on you for specific data. Thus, if you build a blog around the idea of being an analytical expert in your field, don't ignore the latest release of industry figures only to chat about an emotional issue - deliver what your readers expect of you and crunch the numbers. This applies equally well to post frequency - if your blog regularly churns out 2 posts a day, having two weeks with only 4 posts is going to have an adverse impact on traffic. That's not to say you can't take a vacation, but you need to schedule it wisely and be prepared to lose RSS subscribers and regulars. It's not fair, but it's the truth. We lose visitors every time I attend an SES conference and drop to one post every two days (note - guest bloggers and time-release posts can help here, too).
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21. Build a Brand
Possibly one of the most important aspects of all in blogging is brand-building. As Zefrank noted, to be a great brand, you need to be a brand that people want to associate themselves with and a brand that people feel they derive value from being a member. Exclusivity, insider jokes, emails with regulars, the occasional cat post and references to your previous experiences can be off putting for new readers, but they're solid gold for keeping your loyal base feeling good about their brand experience with you. Be careful to stick to your brand - once you have a definition that people like and are comfortable with, it's very hard to break that mold without severe repercussions. If you're building a new blog, or building a low-traffic one, I highly recommend writing down the goals of your brand and the attributes of its identity to help remind you as you write.

Best of luck to all you bloggers out there. It's an increasingly crowded field to play in, but these strategies should help to give you an edge over the competition. As always, if you've got additions or disagreements, I'd love to hear them.

10 Blogging Mistakes To Avoid

Blogging Mistake #1 - Not Updating

It never fails. Somebody sets up a new blog and is all excited about it. We see a furry of posts for the first few days, maybe even a few weeks, and then the number of posts starts to go down until the blog is hardly updated at all. Nothing kills a blog faster than lack of updates. If you are going to blog, then pick a posting frequency and stick to it. Whether it’s one post per week or 10 posts per day, make a commitment to keep your blog updated. A non-updated blog is a dead blog.

Blogging Mistake #2 - Blogging Only For Money

If you’re blogging only for money, then you’re in for a shock. Yes, you can make good money with a blog, but despite what that National Post story on me said, it takes a lot more than “no effort.” 99% of blogs on the Web cannot make more than $100 a month. John Chow dot Com makes money because I don’t blog for money. If the only reason you’re blogging is to get rich, you will fail.

Blogging Mistake #3 - Rushing a Post

I am sure we have all been guilty of this - I know I have. A hot story comes up and you want to get it out ASAP, but in your rush to get the post published, you forget to proofread and just hit the Publish button. Whenever I’ve done that, there have always been mistakes in the post. Before you hit Publish, take your time to double/triple check the post to make sure it’s free of errors. If you spot an error after the post, correct it immediately.

Blogging Mistake #4 - Not Being Personal

A blog is not CNN or News.com. People read your blog to get your opinion and your point of view. Give it to them.

Blogging Mistake #5 - Being a Copycat

What makes your blog stand out from the millions in the blogshere? Is your blog unique or is it just another copycat? I am certainly not the first blog to write about making money on the Internet, so what makes my blog stand out other than me posting pictures of my dinner?

You can write about the same thing as the next blog, but you need to add your own views to make it unique. Don’t just copy and paste what another blog posted. Give your opinion because that’s what blogging is all about. The most unique thing about your blog is you.

Blogging Mistake #6 - Not Replying To Comments

A blog is a two-way communication tool, but many bloggers forget that. When readers comment in your blog, please answer them. If your readers don’t leave comments then try adding these Two Plugins To Increase Blog Comments.

Blogging Mistake #7 - Not Giving a Full Feed RSS

Unless you make 10+ posts per day, there are really no good reasons for not offering a full feed RSS. Since turning on my full feed RSS, my RSS subscribers has increased steadily. I expected traffic to the blog to go down but to my surprise, it kept going up.

Yes, a RSS feed is harder to monetize than a blog, but many RSS readers will unsubscribe to a feed if it’s not full. Not offering a full feed when you do only a few updates a day (or week) just makes you look cheap.

Blogging Mistake #8 - Not Reaching Out To Other Bloggers

The best way to get your blog noticed is by saying hi to other blogs in your niche. The easiest way to do that is to comment on their blogs. I check the comments on my blog all the time and I visit the commentator’s site. I discovered many great blogs this way. Other ways of reaching out to other bloggers includes linking to them, sending trackbacks and adding yourself to their MyBlogLog community. If you’re really creative and have a bit of money to spend, you can even try sending a Google IM.

Blogging Mistake #9 - Writing For Google Instead Of People

Some of you may recall that I am taking an Internet Marketing and SEO class. During this class, the teacher talks about stuff like key phases, keyword density, making sure your content is Google friendly, etc. The only thing I have to say about that is; write for people, not for Google.

You can have the most perfectly written Google optimized page in the world and still not ranked number 1 because Google follows people. And people won’t read a page written for a search engine because it makes no sense. I do keep an eye on my keywords and key phases when I’m writing a post, but I also keep in mind that the readers come first, Google comes second.

Blogging Mistake #10 – Not Reading John Chow dot Com

I think everyone here will agree that this is the biggest mistake any blogger can make. :)

Top 10 Blogging Lessons Learned on Traffic and Monetization

Living the eMoms at Home life has been a roller coaster ride of late. LOTS has changed and improved over this [very] short span of time.

Some things have been huge successes. Some things still need… er, tweaking.

Yet in my quest to find the good in everything, here’s what I have learned so far from blogging my heart out to you wonderful readers:

1. All AdSense sites are NOT created equal

I did my due diligence and spent a good amount of time researching AdSense design, placement, etc. Thank GOD I didn’t drop hundreds of dollars on some information product promising me millions. I was doing all of the right things, but making less than $5 a day.Why?

Because of my niche. I don’t think people really trust home based business ads. Why do I know this to be true? eSelfHelp is still up and running - and languishing, because I put it on hold to develop this blog. But my click through rate on that site - with less than 50 visitors a day (more like 20 at times) is astronomical (One page in particular is nearly 9%). I am actually making more money off of eSelfHelp AdSense ads than I am off of this site, with hundreds of DUV.

Lesson learned: Though I won’t change what I write on this blog to make more AdSense dollars, it has given me much food for thought for additional projects that will generate alternative streams of income.

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2. Competition is Really Coop-e-tition

After enjoying a successful career in the cutthroat recruiting industry (actually, I really did enjoy it!!), coming into the blogging community has both surprised and astonished me at times. Now, it could be my peer group choice, but every single person I have encountered (well.. except this one) has been open, honest, willing to help, and seriously | downright | GENEROUS.

I didn’t expect it, and in hindsight, I’m not really sure why it surprised me so much. But I am honored to be a part of this community of the best and the brightest, and readers you can rest assured I LIVE to take my good fortune and pay it forward.

Lesson Learned: Take advantage of the community nature of bloggers by creating joint ventures or simply reaching out to bloggers you admire. But don’t blow it by expecting something for nothing or by being too darn pesky.

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3. Traffic Spikes ROCK

The whole reason eMoms at Home is what it is today is thanks to the LinkedIn Bloggers group. They worked together and a group of individuals linked to my blog over two days.I really didn’t understand the sheer power of this medium until this experience - the power to literally transform who I am, as well of the lives of others via blogging is astounding. This is why I started the BlogJolt project - and now I am seeing the same effects on the participants of that group.I watched it as well with ProBlogger’s List Writing Project, and also watched some really talented and funny bloggers emerge and really come into their own as their blogs received the attention they deserved.

Lesson Learned: If you have good content, you owe it to yourself AND to the rest of us to do what it takes to bring it to a wider audience. To quote Nelson Mandela,

“We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and famous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world…”

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4. Traffic Does NOT Equal Dollars

The few times I have seen traffic spikes, it has not automatically translated into dollars. Now, there are times when this is absolutely true. But I have also been honest all along that I am learning this stuff along the way as you are. Don’t assume that just because you can get a lot of visitors they will pull out their pocket book (or their AdSense Ad clicking finger, for that matter). Converting visitors into revenue is a fine art - one I am working on all the time :).

Lesson Learned: Don’t get hung up on PR and numbers. Be sure to balance your time between generating traffic AND creating revenue streams.

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5. “Stats Addiction” Needs its Own 12-Step Program

Probably the most costly lesson of all is the amount of time I could (and HAVE!) spent on checking traffic and referrer stats. “Addiction” is a kind and generous term in my mind ;). It’s more like an insidious time sucking machine…Lesson Learned: I have put limits on the number of times I allow myself to check stats - 3 times a day, 5 if it’s a ‘busy’ day on the blog. Otherwise my home based business will rapidly turn into my home based GONEiness!!

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6. Online Networking is Exceptionally Effective

Boy, is it ever. I’ve talked about networking before, quite a bit. It’s a bit different doing it online vs. in person. Each has its own pros and cons. It took me a little while to get comfortable emailing people I had never come in contact with before. I was frankly uncomfortable with the whole darn thing - fearful of being a pest, being branded a spammer, or breaking some unwritten rule I hadn’t found out about yet.

Lesson Learned: Make it mandatory to get outside of your comfort zone and meet other people online who can help you - or YOU can help. I can’t stress this one more highly. Make it a MUST.

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7. Integrity is King

Our blogging community is a fragile environment, with tidal waves of change hitting us on a regular basis. The ONLY way to stay above the fray and ensure the work you are creating will serve your career goals is to make integrity one of your highest priorities.This includes pay per post opportunities (be transparent with your intentions), book and product reviews, and simply the truth behind your content. We can police ourselves, or open ourselves up to legislation - sooner rather than later if we aren’t vigilant about honesty and ethics in our work.

Lesson Learned: Just like in life, NO dollar amount is worth having if it’s had at the price of hurting or misleading others.

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8. We Live in and Write for a Small World

I used to be intimidated by the amount of blogs created on a daily basis. But considering 40% of them are splogs, and hundreds of thousands more never get beyond a post or two, I’m finding the ones that last are literally needles in the blogosphere haystack.Though it makes it a bit easier to stand out in the crowd for now, it also means that much of the time, we are really only reaching a very small percentage of the world with our blogs.

It’s a bigger topic than I can take on in a list post… but it begs to ask some good questions:

What are we doing to expand our reach?

Is there a way for blogs to make a social difference? (Toby has a thing or two to say about this subject!)

How do we get our work in front of the people that need it - but don’t even know to look for it?

Lesson Learned: The big picture is always there for us to look at. It’s up to us to contribute our part to the Big Painting of Life.

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9. Blogging is a Journey, not a Destination

For some, this one perhaps isn’t so relevant… for the REST of us, though, it’s something to consider. There WILL be blogs that are, and will be, a stand-alone business. But a more likely scenario is that they will launch you into a different career or business.

I’m not telling you to stop building your blog - in fact, DO build it into a stand alone business. BUT, in the meantime, take this opportunity to build up other revenue streams. It could be another blog, another site, an information product, a book, who knows?And JUST IN CASE your blog doesn’t make it to the “big time”, at least you have a backup plan (and if you DO make it to the big time, you’ll have even more money to enjoy at the top if you build a strong foundation now!!)

Lesson Learned: Just like in any business, don’t put your all your eggs in one basket.

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10. I Have Come a Long Way - and I Have a Long Way to Go

I am SO damn grateful for the journey to date. My thanks goes out again to those that have helped along the way - as in, hand over my heart thanks. You know who you are. (Hint :: if you are reading this, I’m thanking YOU.)But I had made some assumptions about blogging (thinking AdSense was the be all, end all… traffic would equal dollars…) that just aren’t true - at least all of the time for all bloggers. Silly me.

Building a name and getting lots of visitors doesn’t mean much if I’m not making a difference or earning an income. I’ve had a ton of fun, experienced massive growth, and now it’s time to get down to business.

Lesson Learned: I’m working feverishly on the front end to ensure I continue to add value - and on the back end to build my surprise success into a profitable business.

This blog has put me into a position with great potential. If I never had another visitor again, I can honestly say this journey has been extraordinary and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

What I do with it now will make or break me as a blogger. But not as a person, mom, entrepreneur, business woman or leader. :)

May 21, 2009

The uniqueness of Nokia E71



Announced Date
16 June 2008
Device Description:
The Nokia E71 is optimized for messaging and e-mail with a full messaging keyboard and two customizable home screens, which let users switch easily between business and personal applications. Other features include one-touch keys, intelligent input (including auto-completion), Nokia Calendar, built-in A-GPS, Nokia Maps, 3.2-megapixel camera, music player and e-mail support, including Nokia Intellisync Wireless Email among others. Supported WCDMA frequencies depend on the region where the device is available.
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Technical Specs
Developer Platform S60 3rd Edition, Feature Pack 1
Operating System Symbian OS v9.2
Resolution 320 x 240
>General
Resolution 320 x 240
Color Depth 24 bit
Device Size 114 x 57 x 10 mm
Weight 127 g
Input Methods 2 Labeled soft keys
5-way Scrolling
Qwerty Key Mat
Frequency Bands GSM 1800
GSM 1900
GSM 850
GSM 900
WCDMA 1900
WCDMA 2100
WCDMA 850
WCDMA 900
Data Bearers CSD
Dual Transfer Mode (MSC 11)
EGPRS
GPRS
HSCSD
HSDPA
WCDMA
Regional Availability Africa
Americas
Asia-Pacific
Europe
Latin America
Middle East
CPU Count Single CPU
CPU Type ARM 11
CPU Clock Rate 369 MHz
UAProfile Link Profile 1
Profile 2
Profile 3
Consumer Link Product Home Page
Developer Link Developer Home Page
Remote Device Access Service Link to the Service
>Extra Features
Extra Features FM Radio
FOTI Firmware over the Internet
Handsfree Speaker
PoC (Push-to-talk over Cellular)
SyncML
Themes
Visual Radio
GPS Features A-GPS
>APIs
Java Technology JSR 139 Connected, Limited Device Configuration (CLDC) 1.1
JSR 118 MIDP 2.0
JSR 185 Java™ Technology for Wireless Industry
JSR 75 FileConnection and PIM API
JSR 82 Bluetooth API
JSR 135 Mobile Media API
JSR 172 J2ME™ Web Services Specification
JSR 177 Security and Trust Services API for J2ME™ (CRYPTO and PKI packages)
JSR 179 Location API for J2ME™ 1.0
JSR 180 SIP API for J2ME™
JSR 184 Mobile 3D Graphics API for J2ME™
JSR 205 Wireless Messaging API 2.0
JSR 226 Scalable 2D Vector Graphics API
JSR 234 Advanced Multimedia Supplements
Nokia UI API
Java API Access Permissions Java API Access Permissions
Other APIs OpenGL ES 1.1 Plugin
Product ID 0x2000249B
Certificates Symbian A
Symbian B
Symbian C
Symbian D
UTI Root
>Browser & Flash
Browser HTML over TCP/IP
OSS Browser
WAP 2.0
Web Runtime
XHTML over TCP/IP
Flash Lite version Flash Lite 3.0
>Multimedia
Camera Resolution 2048 x 1536
CMOS Sensor 3.2 Megapixel
Digital Zoom 4 x
Focal length 3.7 mm
F-Stop/Aperture f/2.8
Focus range 10 cm to infinity
Image Formats JPEG/Exif
Camera Features Auto Exposure, Auto Focus, Flash, Red-Eye Reduction, Self Timer
Video Recording Resolution 320 x 240
Video Recording Frame Rate 15 fps
Video Recording Formats H.263, MPEG-4
Video Features Video Call
Video Player
Video Recorder
Video Sharing
Video Streaming
Video Playback Formats 3GPP formats (H.263), Flash Video, H.264/AVC, MPEG-4, RealVideo 7,8,9/10
Graphic Formats BMP, EXIF, GIF87a, GIF89a, JPEG, JPEG 2000, PNG, TIFF, WBMP
Audio Features Audio Equalizer
Audio Recorder AMR
Audio Streaming
Music Player
Stereo
Audio Formats AAC, AAC+, AMR-NB, AMR-WB, eAAC+, M4A, MIDI Tones (poly 64), Mobile XMF, MP3, MP4, RealAudio 7,8,10, SP-MIDI, True tones, WAV
Secondary Camera Resolution 640 x 480
Secondary Camera Focal length 35 mm
Secondary Camera F-Stop/Aperture f/3.2
Secondary Camera Focus range 20 cm to infinity
Secondary Camera Image Formats JPEG/Exif
Secondary Camera Video Recording Resolution 128 x 96
Secondary Camera Video Recording Frame Rate 15 fps
Secondary Camera Video Recording Format H.263
>Memory Functions
Maximum User Storage 110 MB
Free Executable RAM Memory 71 MB
NAND Memory 256 MB
SDRAM Memory 128 MB
Memory Card type Micro SD
Memory Card Features Hot Swap
Maximum Memory Card Size 8 GB
Maximum Heap Size Unlimited
Maximum JAR Size Unlimited
>Connectivity
Local Connectivity Bluetooth 2.0 +EDR
Bluetooth Stereo Audio
Infrared
Micro USB
MTP (Multimedia Transfer Protocol)
Nokia AV 2.5mm
Nokia microUSB Cable CA-101
USB 2.0
USB Mass Storage
WLAN
Bluetooth Profiles A2DP, AVRCP, BIP, DUN, FTP, GAP, GAVDP, GOEP, HFP, HID, HSP, OPP, SAP, SPP
WLAN support 802.11b/g
Nokia VoIP 2.3
WEP
WPA
WPA2 (AES/TKIP)
>Messaging
Messaging IM
MMS+SMIL
SMS
Messaging Features OMA Instant Messaging and Presence Service v1.1
OMA Multimedia Messaging Service v1.2
Email Solutions Mail for Exchange
OMA E-mail Notification v1.0
Seven Mobile Mail
Visto Mobile
Email Protocols IMAP4
POP3
SMTP
Document Formats Excel, PDF, Powerpoint, Word, Zip
>Power Management
Power Management 2.0mm Charger Connector
Battery BP-4L 3.7V 1500 mAh
GSM Talk Time up to 10.5 hours
WCDMA Talk Time up to 4.5 hours
GSM Standby Time up to 17 days
WCDMA Standby Time up to 20 days
Music Playback Time up to 18.0 hours
>Other
OMA Device Management OMA Client Provisioning v1.1
OMA Device Management v1.1.2
Synchronization OMA Data Synchronization v1.2
Digital Rights Management OMA DRM Forward Lock
OMA DRM v1.0
OMA DRM v2.0
Windows Media DRM 10
DRM Delivery Method HTTP Download
MMS
OMA Download v1.0
Web Services Liberty Alliance ID-WSF 1.1
OMA WS Network Identity 1.0
WS-I Basic Profile 1.0/1.1
Tools

The main Tools & SDKs page www.forum.nokia.com/tools provides all the tools & SDKs in an easy to access form. The page also includes Getting Started -articles giving an overview of the tools and SDKs.

Carbide.ui Theme Edition
Carbide.ui Theme Edition enables the creation and editing of themes for S60 and Series 40 devices. Carbide.ui provides professionals and hobbyists alike with access to more than 1,000 customizable elements in the S60 UI, which makes the S60 UI the most customizable UI available.

Carbide.c++
Carbide.c++ is a family of powerful mobile-application development tools built on the Eclipse framework, which are available free of charge to all Symbian C++, Open C/C++ and Qt developers.
Recommended SDK(s)

OpenGL ES 1.1 Plug-in
This early technology plug-in for S60 3rd edition SDK for Symbian OS, for C, enables the development of OpenGL ES 1.1 applications with N93. N93 is the first Nokia multimedia computer with HW accelerated 3D graphics/OpenGL ES 1.1 support. This plug-in enables the full usage of the native 3D graphics features supported in N93. The content of this plug-in will be a part of S60 R3.1 SDK.

S60 Platform SDKs for Symbian OS, for C++
The S60 SDKs for Symbian OS enable application development for devices based on the S60 platform using C++. The SDK includes all key resources needed for application development, such as documentation, API reference, and an emulator. An IDE is not included; Carbide.c++ is recommended.

S60 Platform SDKs for Symbian OS, for Java™
S60 Platform SDK for Symbian OS, for Java™ MIDP allows developers to quickly and efficiently run and test Java applications for devices built on the S60 platform. Using a Java™ IDE, development with the SDK is hosted on a PC.
For more details visit
www.gsmarena.com/nokia_e71-2425.php

May 20, 2009

10 secrets to a happy couple



The 10 Secrets of Happy Couples
May 20, 2009

10 Secrets Happy Couples

They might be 30, or 75. They come in all colors, shapes, sizes and income brackets. It doesn’t matter how long they’ve been together. Whatever the demographics, when you see a happy couple, you just know it!

How do these couples stay in love, in good times and in bad? Fortunately, the answer isn’t through luck or chance. As a result of hard work and commitment, they figure out the importance of the following relationship “musts.” Because few couples know about all of the musts, I think of them as the relationship “secrets.”
Happy Couples and Their Secrets

1. Develop a realistic view of committed relationships.

Recognize that the crazy infatuation you experienced when your romance was new won’t last. A deeper, richer relationship, and one that should still include romance, will replace it. A long-term relationship has ups and downs, and expecting it will be all sunny and roses all the time is unrealistic.

2. Work on the relationship.

An untended garden develops weeds that can ultimately kill even the heartiest plants. And so it is with relationships. It is important to address problems and misunderstandings immediately. Some people believe good relationships just happen naturally. The truth is that a good relationship, like anything you want to succeed in life, must be worked on and tended to on a regular basis. Neglect the relationship, and it will often go downhill.

3. Spend time together.

There is no substitute for shared quality time. When you make a point of being together, without kids, pets and other interruptions, you will form a bond that will get you through life’s rough spots. Time spent together should be doing a shared activity, not just watching television.

4. Make room for “separateness.”

Perhaps going against conventional wisdom, spending time apart is also an important component of a happy relationship. It is healthy to have some separate interests and activities and to come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to share your experiences. Missing your partner helps remind you how important he or she is to you.

5. Make the most of your differences.

Stop and think: What most attracted you to your partner at the beginning? I’ll almost guarantee that it was exactly the thing that drives you most insane today. Take a fresh look at these differences. Try to focus on their positive aspects and find an appreciation for those exact things that make the two of you different from one another. It’s likely that your differences balance one another out and make you a great team.

6. Don’t expect your partner to change; but at the same time give them more of what they want.

If both you and your partner stop trying to change each other, you will eliminate the source of most of your arguments. At the same time, each of you should focus on giving one another more of what you know the other person wants, even if it doesn’t come naturally. For instance, instead of complaining how your partner never cleans out the dishwasher, try just doing it yourself once in awhile without complaint. Your partner will likely notice your effort and make more of an effort themselves around the house. If you do both of these things at once you’ve got a winning plan!

7. Accept that some problems can’t be solved.

There may be issues upon which you cannot agree. Rather than expending wasted energy, agree to disagree, and attempt to compromise or to work around the issue. Two people cannot spend years together without having legitimate areas of disagreement. The test of a happy relationship is how they choose to work through such issues — through compromise, change, or finding it’s just not that important to stew over.

8. Communicate!

Lack of communication is the number one reason even good relationships fail. And here is a useful format for doing so, especially when dealing with incendiary topics: Listen to your partner’s position, without interrupting him or her. Just listen. When he or she is finished, summarize what you heard him or her say. If you can, empathize with your significant other even though you don’t agree. This will take your partner off of the defensive, and make it easier for them to hear your thoughts and feelings. It’s hard to argue when you use this format, and best of all, you may come up with an understanding or a solution.

9. Honesty is essential.

You may share with your partner the things he or she doesn’t want to hear. Better this than to have him or her doubt your honesty. Mistrust is one of the key deal breakers in relationships. And once trust is lost or broken, it can take a very long time to re-establish it in the relationship.The happiest couples are the ones where honesty is as natural and every day as breathing.

10. Respect your partner, and don’t take him or her for granted.

Treating your sweetheart with respect is likely to get you the same in return. And regularly reminding them how much they mean to you will enrich your relationship in indescribable ways. When you say, “I love you,” pause for a moment to really mean it. And don’t be afraid to express your feelings of appreciation with your partner — he or she will be thankful that you did.

Making these secrets an integral part of your relationship won’t be easy. In fact, your efforts may initially seem like planted seeds that never come up. If you maintain your efforts, however, you will likely reap what you sow.